Just a thought too, instead of playing on the HUGE 64 player servers all the time, how about a 16 person deal, OR even a 20-32.
I find with the smaller maps it has more to do with skill, and your squad can make a bigger impact than in a huge furball in a 64 person server. It's nice how the maps scale down too. I played a 8 vs 8 on IronGator, and it was kinda relaxing actually, and played more like Ghost Recon, a slower, more tacticall pace.